Question and Answers about a Guru
( Guru Vishayak Prashnoutter )
( Guru Vishayak Prashnoutter )
Shree Hari
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Question: May a woman make someone a Guru?
Answer: A woman should never make someone a Guru. If she has already made one, then she should give him up. For a woman, her husband itself is her Guru. Scriptures say –
Gururgrirdvijaateenaam varnaanaam braahmano guruh |
Patireva guruh strinaam sarvasyaabhyaagato guruh ||
(padmapuran, 51/51, brahmapuran 80/47)
Fire is regarded as Guru of the twice born, a Brahmin is the Guru of all the four castes (Varnas), while the husband is the only Guru for a woman and a guest is the Guru of all.
Vaivaahiko vidhih sweeyaanm sanskaaro vaidikh smrutah |
Patiseva gurou vaaso gruhaarthognparikriyaa || (Manusmruti 2/67)
For women obedience to the marital rites is the only vedic activity (sacred thread), service of the husband is the only period of study and household duties are her only religious sacrifice (agnihotra).
A woman should not develop any type of relationship with anybody other than her husband. It is my personal request to the ladies not to get involved with any Sadhu or monk. These days various types of frauds, deception and superficialities are being practiced. I receive such letters and victimized women also come to me and explain their unfortunate experiences; from which I have formed a strong opinion that in the present days it is disastrous for a woman to make a Guru or to develop relationship with any person other than her husband.
A monk should also not initiate any woman his disciple. At the time of initiation ceremony, a Guru is required to touch the chest (breast) etc., of the new disciple. Whereas it is strictly prohibited for an ascetic even to touch a woman. In Srimad Bhagwat it is prescribed – not to talk of a woman in flesh and blood, an ascetic should not even touch a woman's figurine (statue) made of wood and that too not only by hands but even by feet.
Padaapi yuvatim bhikshurn sprushed daaraveemapu (Sri. Bhagwat. 11/8/13)
The scriptures even go on to say:
Maatraa swastraa duhitraa vaa na viviktaasano bhavet |
Balavaanindriyagraamo vidvasamaoi karshati || (Manu. 2/215)
A man should not stay even with his mother, sister, and daughter in solitude, because sensual temptations are very strong which even the learned persons cannot overcome or resist."
Sangam na kuryaatpramadaasu jaatu
Yogasya paaram paramaarurukshah |
Matsevayaa pratilabdhaatmalaabho
Vadanti yaa niryadvaaramasya || (Srimad Bhagwat. 3/31/39)
"A person who wants to attain the supreme state of yoga or one who has realized the truth of the self and the non-self by rendering service to Me, should never indulge with women because the women have been declared to be the open gateway to hell for such a person." (to be continued)
Answer: A woman should never make someone a Guru. If she has already made one, then she should give him up. For a woman, her husband itself is her Guru. Scriptures say –
Gururgrirdvijaateenaam varnaanaam braahmano guruh |
Patireva guruh strinaam sarvasyaabhyaagato guruh ||
(padmapuran, 51/51, brahmapuran 80/47)
Fire is regarded as Guru of the twice born, a Brahmin is the Guru of all the four castes (Varnas), while the husband is the only Guru for a woman and a guest is the Guru of all.
Vaivaahiko vidhih sweeyaanm sanskaaro vaidikh smrutah |
Patiseva gurou vaaso gruhaarthognparikriyaa || (Manusmruti 2/67)
For women obedience to the marital rites is the only vedic activity (sacred thread), service of the husband is the only period of study and household duties are her only religious sacrifice (agnihotra).
A woman should not develop any type of relationship with anybody other than her husband. It is my personal request to the ladies not to get involved with any Sadhu or monk. These days various types of frauds, deception and superficialities are being practiced. I receive such letters and victimized women also come to me and explain their unfortunate experiences; from which I have formed a strong opinion that in the present days it is disastrous for a woman to make a Guru or to develop relationship with any person other than her husband.
A monk should also not initiate any woman his disciple. At the time of initiation ceremony, a Guru is required to touch the chest (breast) etc., of the new disciple. Whereas it is strictly prohibited for an ascetic even to touch a woman. In Srimad Bhagwat it is prescribed – not to talk of a woman in flesh and blood, an ascetic should not even touch a woman's figurine (statue) made of wood and that too not only by hands but even by feet.
Padaapi yuvatim bhikshurn sprushed daaraveemapu (Sri. Bhagwat. 11/8/13)
The scriptures even go on to say:
Maatraa swastraa duhitraa vaa na viviktaasano bhavet |
Balavaanindriyagraamo vidvasamaoi karshati || (Manu. 2/215)
A man should not stay even with his mother, sister, and daughter in solitude, because sensual temptations are very strong which even the learned persons cannot overcome or resist."
Sangam na kuryaatpramadaasu jaatu
Yogasya paaram paramaarurukshah |
Matsevayaa pratilabdhaatmalaabho
Vadanti yaa niryadvaaramasya || (Srimad Bhagwat. 3/31/39)
"A person who wants to attain the supreme state of yoga or one who has realized the truth of the self and the non-self by rendering service to Me, should never indulge with women because the women have been declared to be the open gateway to hell for such a person." (to be continued)
From book "Is Salvation Not Possible without a Guru?" by Swami Ramsukhdasji
Ram Ram
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If in doubt regarding the translation, please read the original Hindi message by Swamiji.
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