Give up that pride. Now what is the solution for giving it up? Those who do not listen to you, they are helping you in getting rid of your pride, and those who listen and do as you say, they are swelling your pride - are you getting this point or not? The people who are obeying you are not benefiting you as much as, those who don't do as you say. For you own good, the more that your pride is confronted the more better it is for you. Therefore you must be grateful to those who are not listening to you, because as such this is for our own well-being.
If they knowingly do not listen to you, saying that brother, we are not listening to you because it is for your own good, so that your pride will go away, then too it is to your benefit only. They are not further boosting your pride i.e. your pride is not getting further bloated. Do you wish for your own good or do you not? Do you want your spiritual progress or do you want your downfall? If you desire your spiritual growth, then it will be possible only when you are free of pride. And you will become free of pride when no one listens to you. If someone listens to you, then your words become firmly rooted and this itself is cause for pride. This itself is demonaic tendency - "dambho darpobhimaanashrav krodhah" (Gita 16/4). Therefore those who do not listen to you, they are gracing you immensely. They are removing your demonaic tendencies and instilling divine tendencies in you.
Now the question that has come is that by not listening the child will become insolent and arrogant. By listening to you, you will become filled with pride, and if he does not listen then he will become insolent - now think deeply on these two points. Regardless of whether you are there or not, by doing as he wants he will become insolent, but how will your pride go away? Insolent he will be regardless of you, but your pride will not go away. Therefore you must get rid of your pride first and the foremost.
Second point is that if you do not dominate over him then your mild nature, that is free from pride will make an impression on him, by which he will not become insolent, he will become alright. You say to him that brother, you must not do this sort of work, then too if he does so, then become peaceful and silent. Because if he is insolent then he will get the consequences of his actions. On getting the fruits, he will become alert, and then his insolence will automatically go away. But by your persistent telling, his insolence will not go away as quickly as it will go away from suffering the consequences of his insolent behavior; The reason for this is that in his mind he will hold on to his own points, and what you say will stay superficially on the surface like silver plating. That plating will wear off, then how can his insolence go away entirely? The real solution to getting rid of his insolence is to get rid of your own pride.
If man wants to live in a family, then he must learn how to live in a family. The art of living in the family is that do as they say, do according what their wishes are. Fulfill your duty and make them happy. (to be continued)