|| Shri Hari ||
How to Overcome Anger
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Sanahu taat maayaa gun aru dosh anek
Gun yah ubhaya na dekhiahin dekhia so abibek ||
(Manasa 7/41)
If others have good qualities you may see them, but do not see their bad qualities. If you see towards their bad qualities, those qualities will come in you. And on seeing those bad qualities, if you are getting angry at them, for their willful acts, then you cannot be saved from that anger. Therefore, do your duty. We are not to see towards other’s duty, nor are we to see towards their flaws. Yes! If you have a son, then it is your duty to teach him good lessons, but wanting that he should do exactly as you say - that is not your duty. That is his duty. It is not your duty to show him his duty. Your duty is only to say that son, look it is not good to do like this. If he says - “no, no father, I will do it like this”; then say – “OK, do it that way!” This is a very good medicine. I too am taking this medicine. The medicine that has been given, is a very effective medicine. If you say – “Do like this” and if he says, “No ! I will do like that only.” Then simply say – “OK! do it like that.”
Rajjab ros na kijiye koyi kahe kyon hi |
Hasker utter dijiye haa babaji yu hi ||
If what he is doing is sinful or unlawful, then do not accept it. We are to say that which is in accordance with the scriptures, however if they do not listen, then do the scriptures say to fight with them or to control them? You only have the rights to tell them what you know to be true -
“karmanyavaadhikaaraste” (Gita 2/47),
But you have no right to think that they should do exactly as you say -
“Maa phaleshu kadaachan” (Gita 2/47).
You have done your part, your duty was only to point out. It is not your duty to make them do as you say! To do as you say is their duty. We only have to explain their duty. If they fulfill their duty then there is no obstacle in your spiritual progress and if they do not fulfill their duty then too there is no loss. There is no loss for you at all, because you have told them what is for their supreme good. This is a priceless point !
Narayan ! Narayan !! Narayan !!!
‒ From book “Art of Living” in English by Swami Ramsukhdasji