Gita's Yoga of Detachment (continued)
When a girl gets married, while leaving to go to her new home (husband and in-laws house), she cries. She is very sad to leave her parents and separate from them. But as she begins to stay in her new home, in due time she blends in so well with the new family that she even forgets her parent's home. When she becomes a grand-mother and a great grand-mother and when her grand-children and great grand-children's wives are rebellious, then she says that an outsider has come and ruined this household! She does not remember in the least bit that she herself was an outsider at one time. This is called "aasakti" (attachment). She has regarded this house as her own, that I am from here, I am a mother and this is my son, I am a grand-mother and these are my grand-sons etc. These are all mine. There is a certain kind of relish (pleasure) in this. This relish is the kind that leads to enormous amount of suffering, This relish will not remain forever, but it will leave behind deep pain and suffering. The bird will fly away, but will leave behind an egg! The relationship that was established out of attachment for one's own pleasure and happiness will not remain forever. It will surely go away. If a relationship is established for giving happiness then there will be happiness forever. If people who are dedicated to serving go to any major program or event, only with the motive of serving, then on leaving, they are not sad and do not cry, because they have gone there with the objective of giving happiness to others, not for taking pleasures. However, when there is hope of getting happiness from others in the family, then while parting from them, one has to cry.
If someone's son dies then it is very sad, but really speaking the suffering is not due to the death of the son, rather it is due to the sense of mine-ness with him. Daily whoever dies, it is a son that has died; because the person who has died, is someone or the other's son. But when you regard one as "my son" now there is suffering from his death. Therefore in this world it is the sense of mine-ness which is the cause of suffering. If the relationship is established only for the purpose of serving, then there will not be so much suffering. Therefore may all the relating in the family be only of serving, only of giving happiness, only of giving them rest and relaxation. By doing so, the attachment "aasakti" will be wiped out.
If a twenty-five year old son dies, then one feels very sad. But that very same son if between the age of 19 and 20 becomes very sick, and the doctors say that there is no possibility of this boy living very long, and while suffering for several years dies at the age of twenty five, then one does not feel so sad. The point is hope of happiness, desire for happiness and enjoyment in pleasure is the main cause of suffering. If there is no hope, desire and enjoyment in pleasures, then there can never be any sorrow or suffering. All-in-all, suffering is dependent on hope, desire and enjoyment in pleasures.
(To be continued)
From book in Hindi "Jit Dekhu Tit Tu" By Swami Ramsukhdasji
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