As such, it is difficult to give up self-conceit and attachment. But if brothers and sisters pay attention to what I say and put it into practice, they can give up self-conceit and attachment very easily. There are two factors that are responsible for domestic quarrels. Everyone wants others to do the work and bear the expenses, while he himself wants material comfort, respect, and praise. If we reverse the order by giving comfort, respect and praise etc., to others and do the work and bear expenses ourselves, good-will will develop,
It is the nature of a human being to get his desire fulfilled. And by fulfilling it, he is pleased. Out of all other desires such as desire for money, honor, praise and life etc., this is the main one. This is not something good. If instead of fulfilling his desires, man starts fulfilling the desires of others, he may attain the supreme bliss.
Regarding this, two factors which are to be kept in mind are – 1) first their desire should be just and 2) secondly it should be within our power to do.
To do so there is an easy method that we should determine once and for all, not to take anything from the world but to give things to the world. Why to give? We have to give, because we have received from the world.
Now I am going to tell you something very vital. Listen to it. The purpose of this human body is to attain God Realization and He can be attained very easily if we adopt the right method to live in the world. There is an art to do a piece of work. If the work is done in accordance with it, it is completed very easily. Similarly there is an art to live in this world. The art is to do our duty, without having any desire or yearning. We have to take nothing from others. This human body has not been bestowed upon us for sensual pleasures.
"Yahin tana kar phala bishaya e bhaayi" (manasa VII:44:1)
The aim of this human body is to serve others. Prove yourself the best son for your parents. Serve them to the very best. This human body has not been bestowed upon us for sensual pleasures. If you are a son, be a good son. Serve your mother. Do not want anything from her. Only ask for her blessings to be able to serve her. One can never become debt free, from serving their mother and father. Whatever we may have done for them, we can never pay back our debts to our parents. We can never be free of what we owe them. There is no way out of this debt. We are totally indebted to our parents. So then what? We can only serve them and make them happy. By making them happy, all our debts are excused. The amount of difficulty a mother has born for her child, to that extent the child can never serve his mother.